“Mom, put down your phone!”

“Mom, put down your phone!”

What you are about to read is just something that has been on my heart to share for quite some time and I figured I would put it out there before it ate me alive. There is nothing but words spilled straight from the heart here, nothing proofread, nothing organized, just stripped down thoughts on something I think is going to tear down society little by little.

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How many of you have become slaves to your cell phone and/or social media? How many of you are distracted parents?

How many of you showboat your children to Facebook? Did you know that parenting is NOT a popularity contest?

Do you know what is more important than the outside world? I am about to tell you something that is going to BLOW your mind! Your children, if you have them, are more important than anything on Facebook, Pinterest, FOX news, ESPN, Instagram, and basically everything and everyone else.

The first time my son told me to put my phone down was an eye opening experience. He was trying to show me something and talk to me and I was so consumed by my mindless scrolling that I literally did not hear him. THIS broke my heart. I just ignored my baby boy! All he wanted to do was show me something that he thought was interesting and by the time I realized what I had happened, the damage was done. He no longer felt important. His spirits were already crushed. I was missing out on his childhood and also I was robbing him of it. I know so many people who claim they love their kids (and it may be true) yet, they never play with them, they never talk to them, they never SHOW that they care. Parents now do not give their children their undivided attention. Instead, parents shun their kids off into their rooms to watch TV and play alone. I missed out on my parents a lot as a child, they missed out on me. I will not let that happen to my son. Children sense at an early age whether or not what they have to say is important to the adults around them.

LOOK UP, YOUR CHILD JUST DID SOMETHING INCREDIBLE, AND YOU MISSED IT!

I want to ask you for a second to really get into your childs head. For a second, think of how they see you. Do they see you as a fun, loving super hero protector or do they see you as the person that feeds them on schedule? If you even do that because unfortunately, I DO know some people that do not feed their children properly.

Do you want your kids teachers to ask them about what they do at home for them to say “I watch tv and get yelled at a lot because my mommy wants to play on her phone” The single fact that this actually happens ALL of the time, all over the world literally makes me sick to my stomach. Did you know there are some children in the world that want to go to school because they want to be loved and have someone’s attention? Why do they love going to school so much? They love school because the teachers spend time with them, teach them things, and play with them and they interpret that as LOVE. At home, this is not happening because todays parents refuse to disconnect from unimportant things.

Cell phones have made us so easily accessible that when we are inaccessible our friends and co-workers wonder which ditch you are laying in. Just stop. If it is after 5:30 and my husband and I screen your call or text, it is nothing personal, we are enjoying our son! 30 years ago you would not have been able to get in touch with someone immediately, those people survived and thrived!

Do you look at your phone when your kids are in the car? SHAME. ON. YOU! Not only are you a hazard to other drivers, you are putting your own children at risk! What is so important that it takes precedence over the possibility of life and death for not only yourself but also your innocent little babies? If you have some attention deficit issues of your own, make your daily travels a conversation with your children. “Look at that over there” “what color is that?” “What number is on that house” “can you read that street name?” “Let’s sing your favorite song!” Just do anything other than stare at your cell phone.

Is the outside world your priority or are your kids? I mean, seriously ask yourself that. Ask yourself when was the last time you got on the floor and played with your kids for more than 5 minutes, WITHOUT a cell phone within reach? Also, I must remind you that doing this merely once a week is unacceptable. You should be spending as much time as possible teaching, interacting, helping, playing with your kids. Yes, I understand that you have to cook and clean but they can be a part of that. They are capable of helping. Would it surprise you to know that they want to help?

When you are at home, look your children in the eyes when they speak to you. This is so important and it will always BE important.

Do not be the reason your children lose their innocence, do not be the reason they learn to see the negative in the world. Always treat your children with respect and care for them as the delicate beings they are. They say babies are resilient and yes, they are to some extent but words can never be taken back and not all wounds heal as if they never happened.

Treat your kids as if they are somebody to you and someday they will be someone to the WORLD.

As I write this, my son grabs my hand, looks at me with an angelic smile and says “Momma you’re my best friend!” THIS is what I live for. I want him to think I am a hero, because he is mine!

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Making sacrifices: Fast food: Arby’s

Making sacrifices: Fast food: Arby’s

What’s up, Y’all? I want to share with you one of my biggest weaknesses, fast food. Now, let me clarify something… I do not prefer fast food over its healthy, home prepared counterparts. Fast food is just so flippin’ convenient it should be a sin.

With my husband and I working 6 days a week a piece, and having a high maintenance, hyper 3 year old boy who steals my heart with every giggle and smile, it can get a little tough to prepare meals at home especially when we already have so much on our plates already. With the pressure to work, cook, clean, run errands, shower, get ready, bathe our kids and get them to bed, maybe we can have a social (throw that in there too) it is almost way too easy to zip through a fast food joint and eat it on the way to or from wherever we are traveling. Virtually no time is lost, right? WRONG!

That workout you have to squeeze in if you’re not dead tired from everything else could in theory be completely skipped if we just ate right. They say a healthy lifestyle is 70% diet and only 30% exercise. So if your eating habits are not up to par what is the use in wasting time in the gym. If you’re like me you are doing the moves all wrong anyhow and completely wasting time and money, both of which are scarce to everyone these days.

So anyway, today I zipped through Arby’s because I have finally pin pointed my peak hunger times. One is about 2:30pm and the other is between 6pm and 7pm. Like…. If you do not feed me between those times please be prepared to excuse anything I might have said to you in vain because I was HaNGRY.

This post is about making sacrifices so I am going to walk you through my old habits of a 1245 calorie meal at Arby’s…. WHAT… AHAH I laugh because it is so pathetic that one meal is MORE than what I strive (I use this word loosely, veery loosely) to eat in a whole day.

I used to order the Market Fresh Roast turkey and swiss (hold the onion) sandwich, medium curly fry (which is huge, I never could eat them all but I sure tried! Momma taught me not to waste food and since its of my own money now, all the more incentive to shove it alllllll in there. All of it.) and an unsweet tea. The unsweet tea is where it started. I found this product called Stevia. There are many brands of this now but at the time I could only find one made by Skinnygirl. It ain’t cheap but it is what it is. I would get unsweet tea and squirt this “natural” no calorie sweetener all up in this paper cup full of beautiful light brown deliciousness.
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it’s dirty because it literally goes with me everywhere and that little sucker has taken a beating

BOY when I found out how many calories I was consuming, I got a attiFOOD adjustment real quick fast and in a hurry. Sandwiches and salads are a conspiracy, I tell ya! Those are the most caloric foods on menu’s!

I just could not seem to give up my Arby’s, The food is a great value and the one by my office is so fast and convenient. I changed my order a little from 1245 calories to 815 calories. I would instead order a classic roast beef, small fry, my unsweet tea and of course, a cup of that dang cheddar crap. I still felt like I could cut calories so I skipped the fries the next time and I was still hungry. Luckily for me (at the time) my son eats like a bird and he hates French fries (the dude literally only eats grilled cheese) I ate his. Don’t judge me.

Today, I ordered a Jr. roast beef no cheddar and a side salad with balsamic vinaigrette. That is it. As a matter of fact, I separated the sandwich and took half the meat and put it on top of the other meat so only ended up eating half the bread. I just needed something of substance to full me up. The sandwich half and salad with dressing came out to about 400 calories but subtract some calories from the bread and the dressing since I squirted nearly half of it across the room. Whoops.

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The point is, you can still have your convenience without it all going straight to your rear end! It is all abut making choices. If only I could make that choice not to eat the cereal on nights the husband gets home late and I am bored to tears.